I love the book Transitions by William Bridges, he says that new beginnings, all begin with an ending. As a result we may feel a sense of loss, then feel a little lost before we can embrace a new beginning.
At this time of year you may be thinking about the New Year and starting afresh, you may even be visioning your success. This is of course a great thing to do when accompanied by realistic planning.
Based on William Bridges thinking, have you considered what you might need to lose in order to move into having a successful year?
For example, the person who studies may have to lose old ideas before they can embrace the new information. The person who wants to run a marathon may need to lose hours usually spent watching TV in order to train, and the person who wants to network may need to lose the fear of speaking to strangers.
Your willingness to lose directly impacts your ability to succeed.
Here are three things you definitely need to lose in the New Year:
Lose your need for independence
Ok, I am the first to admit that I pride myself on being pretty independent, I can handle a drill well enough to put up a shelf, change a fuse and I can cook too and I want my daughter to be the same, but there is a difference between independence and being interdependent. ‘Dependent people need others to get what they want. Independent people can get what they want through their own effort. Interdependent people combine their own efforts with the efforts of others to achieve their greatest success.’ You cannot achieve alone, get support, advice, knowledge and collaborate as much as possible.
Action: Find a Coach, Mentor and/or Sponsor if you don’t have them in place.
Lose your limiting beliefs
Henry Fords advice ‘‘whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” Still holds true. Developing the mind-set for success means losing those limiting beliefs, the little voice that says that you can’t do things, the one that says you are not good enough, bright enough, good looking enough; the voice that limits you from living as fully as you would like.
Action: Focus on what’s going well. At the end of each day make it your ritual to write three things that have gone well for you, this will help you recognize how resourceful you are.
Lose your fear
Anyone who has ever had to speak in front of an audience knows that you need to make the nerves and adrenaline you feel your friend, it’s the same with fear. To lose fear you have to decide that fear is another form of excitement not something to steer clear of. You have to trust that you’ll learn from every fearful experience you engage in. After all ‘Fortune favours the brave’
Action: Blow it up! By that I mean, think about the worst that can really happen, blow it up out of all proportion, realistically there is no way it will be that bad. This should help you put your fears back in their box and take action.
So plan to lose as well as to succeed in the New Year. What will you lose?
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